If You Don’t Have Anything Nice To Say..

A common expression within our culture is “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” While I do not necessarily think the average person walks around blaspheming others, there is an obvious increase in the courtesy we show others through social media such as Facebook, twitter, and email.  Every day I log in onto Facebook to check on the world I find status updates from people about how angry they are with another person. Typically they use words and comments that I wont repeat here, to get their point across. What does this mean, are they just upset? Well, the honest truth is such: People see this and it hurts your reputation. Would you rather talk to someone who is known for being very calm and professional or someone who writes daily rants regarding others?

This brings me to the point of this post, which is Networking.

Now a network of people will do more for you, your career, and your social life than most anything. Who you know can lead to a better job, and if that person has good things to say about you then you are in a much better position than you would be otherwise. I have come up with 3 simple rules for Networking that everyone should take into consideration.


1. Watch your posts on social media sites. If you are emotional at the time, consider waiting a few hours to post something.

– Now this is mainly targeted at Facebook and Twitter. A world of people view and search this site, so what you say can have a big impact on the rest of your life.


2. Treat everyone with respect.

– Day to day we meet people from all walks of life. You should always take care to learn that persons name, and speak highly of yourself and others if it comes up. I cannot tell you how many times I have met a new person who knows someone I do.


3. Network for life.

– Everyone you meet can potentially help your network. Chances are they might know other people you know, and you do not want someone in your pool of contacts that does not think much of you. Networking can take place anywhere, such as school, work, the grocery store, a movie, and so on. Always be prepared to offer a smile and advice if the time comes. You want to be thought of as the kind of person other people would refer. Think of every new encounter as a job interview.


Chances are there are people that you dislike and there are people that dislike you, I know, its hard to believe. Don’t try to buddy up to someone and become a pushover in their eyes, but always leave an impression. Remember, you only have once chance to make that first impression, so take advantage of that. Its much easier to increase good relations than fix bad ones.


I will be following up this article soon with one based on good locations to meet and network. Stay tuned and subscribe!



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